Shopping for a first toy or upgrading your collection should feel exciting, not overwhelming. With so many shapes, sizes and sensations on offer, the trick is matching what you enjoy with designs that deliver it comfortably and safely.
This guide demystifies the essentials. You will learn the difference between internal and external stimulation, how rabbit styles and wands compare, what makes a great G-spot target, and how silicone dildos stack up in different sizes. We will also cover lubricants, noise levels, waterproofing, rechargeability, body-safe materials and warranties, so you can buy with confidence.
Throughout, you will see how Forbidden Fruit supports you with discreet packaging, fast Australia-wide shipping from Sydney and expert, confidential guidance if you want a hand choosing.
External vs internal stimulation
Most vulva owners respond strongly to clitoral stimulation, which is external. External toys focus vibration or pressure on the clitoral glans and surrounding areas. Think bullets, palm vibes and wand massagers. They are straightforward, easy to position and great for beginners or anyone who prefers surface-level intensity.
Internal stimulation targets the vaginal canal and sensitive areas like the G-spot. Internal toys include curved dildos and insertable vibrators. Many people enjoy blending both. If you are not sure, start externally to learn what types of pressure and patterns your body likes, then add internal play if you are curious.
Tip: Begin on the lowest setting and add a small amount of water-based lubricant to reduce friction and help your body relax into sensation.
Meet the main vibrator families
Bullets and minis: Compact, quiet and focused, ideal for pinpoint clitoral play and travel. Great first step if you want to keep things simple.
Wands: Larger heads with rumbly motors that spread vibration across a wider surface. Excellent for broad, tension-melting stimulation on the vulva, thighs and anywhere you carry stress.
Rabbit styles: Dual-stimulation designs that combine an internal shaft with an external arm. They can deliver blended orgasms when the fit aligns with your anatomy. Look for flexible external arms and adjustable intensities to fine-tune comfort.
G-spot targets: Curved shafts with a firmer, bulbous tip designed to press into the front vaginal wall. Not everyone experiences G-spot pleasure the same way, so start slowly and pair with good lubrication.
Vibrating dildo: An insertable shaft that vibrates along its length, useful if you like fullness plus internal buzz. Choose rumbly motors for deeper sensation.
If you are browsing options and want a feel for what is available, explore our range of vibrators, including quiet bullets, rechargeable wands and dual-stimulation designs, in the vibrators collection at Forbidden Fruit.
Dildos explained: materials, sizes and feel
A dildo is a non-vibrating or vibrating insertable toy designed for penetration and pressure play. What is a dildo used for? People use dildos for internal pleasure, exploring fullness, G-spot or prostate stimulation, and partnered play, including harness use when compatible. Some enjoy dildos with suction bases for hands-free positions in the shower or bedroom.
Silicone is the gold standard for body-safe dildos. It is non-porous, easy to clean and available in a huge variety of shapes and firmness levels. If you want a realistic feel, choose softer silicone with a flexible core. For more targeted pressure, pick a slightly firmer curve.
Size is purely personal. As a rule of thumb, beginners often prefer slimmer shafts with gentle tapers and a smooth surface. Over time, you can step up diameter or length as comfort increases. Remember that girth influences fullness more than length.
Curious about options? Browse our silicone dildos selection for different shapes, sizes and harness-friendly bases.
Why lubricants matter
Lubrication improves comfort, enhances sensation and reduces friction on sensitive tissue. Water-based lubricant is the most versatile, easy to clean and generally compatible with toys and condoms. Silicone-based lubricant lasts longer but can react with some silicone toys, so check compatibility or spot test on the base first. Flavoured water-based options are designed for oral play.
For most vibrator and dildo play, start with a small amount of water-based lube and reapply as needed. You can find a wide range of lubricants at Forbidden Fruit, including water-based everyday formulas and specialty options.
Smart buyer checklist
Use this quick list to compare options, especially when you are choosing between two similar models.
Noise level: Look for quiet or whisper-quiet motors if you share walls or prefer discretion.
Waterproofing: Fully waterproof toys are shower-bath friendly and easier to clean. Water-resistant toys need extra care around charging ports.
Rechargeability: USB-rechargeable designs save on batteries and often deliver steadier power.
Body-safe materials: Prioritise medical-grade silicone, stainless steel or ABS plastic. Avoid porous materials for internal use unless covered with a condom.
Warranty and support: Reputable brands back products with a warranty. Buy from a trusted online adult store that offers help with selection and care advice.
Controls and patterns: Simple, intuitive buttons and a mix of steady speeds and patterns help you find your rhythm without fuss.
First-time buyers: start here
If you are new to toys, keep it small, simple and body-safe. A soft bullet or a compact palm vibrator is an easy introduction to external pleasure and can be paired with penetrative sex or solo play. Aim for a quiet, waterproof, USB-rechargeable model in silicone with straightforward controls. Use a water-based lubricant to reduce friction and start on low intensity.
For a first dildo, choose a slim, smooth silicone design with a tapered tip. Add plenty of lube and explore shallow, gentle insertion. Comfort is the metric that matters.
If you prefer a premium feel and refined power, you might explore respected brands like LELO. Our LELO Australia page showcases luxury designs known for sleek finishes and quiet, rumbly motors.
Upgrading without redundancy
Already own a bullet and a basic dildo? Consider adding a wand for broad, rumbly power that doubles as a body massager. If you enjoy internal pressure, a curved G-spot toy with a firmer tip provides a different sensation profile than a straight shaft. If you love blended stimulation, a rabbit with a flexible external arm can avoid the common pitfall where the fit feels off.
Think in sensation families, not duplicates. For example:
One pinpoint vibe (bullet) plus one broad stimulator (wand)
One straight dildo plus one curved G-spot toy
One external-only toy plus one dual-stimulation rabbit
This approach expands your options without buying three versions of the same feeling.
Care, cleaning and storage
Before and after play, wash with warm water and mild, fragrance-free soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. Dry thoroughly and store toys separately in a pouch, away from direct sun and extreme temperatures. Fully charge a rechargeable toy before first use, and remove disposable batteries between uses to prevent leaks.
For porous materials like jelly or TPE, use a condom as a barrier, or upgrade to non-porous silicone or stainless steel for easier hygiene and longevity.
Privacy, delivery and support
Forbidden Fruit is an Australian-owned online adult store based in Sydney. Every order is processed with complete confidentiality, packed in discreet, unmarked packaging and shipped nationwide. Payments are secure and credit card details are not stored. If you want tailored guidance, our team offers respectful, evidence-based support via phone, email and live chat.
If you are ready to browse discreetly, you can start at our homepage to see the full store, or head straight to the vibrators section to shop vibrators online with filters for size, style and features.
Quick FAQ
What is a dildo used for? A dildo provides internal stimulation and a sense of fullness, and can target areas like the G-spot or prostate. Many models are harness-compatible or feature suction bases for hands-free positions. Vibrating versions add internal buzz along the shaft.
Why are vibrators linked to health benefits? Vibrators can support sexual wellbeing by helping you explore what feels good, which may reduce stress, improve mood and enhance pelvic blood flow. Some people find they help with arousal, lubrication and orgasmic function. Experiences vary, so consider them one tool in a broader self-care routine.
What should a beginner look for in a vibrator? Choose a small, soft silicone toy that is quiet, waterproof and USB-rechargeable. Simple controls, gentle speeds and a water-based lubricant will help you learn what you like comfortably.
Summary and next step
Choosing a toy is about matching sensations to your body and preferences. External toys like bullets and wands deliver focused or broad vibration. Internal designs like G-spot curves, dildos and rabbit styles add pressure, fullness and blended stimulation. Prioritise body-safe materials, quiet power, waterproofing, rechargeability and a solid warranty. Start simple if you are new, and upgrade by adding new sensation families, not duplicates.
When you are ready, explore our curated vibrators, browse silicone dildos by size and shape, and pick up a compatible lubricant to round out your kit. If you would like personalised advice, we are here with discreet, expert support and fast Australia-wide delivery.
